Rain Showers, Rainbows

kieran in the rain

Today’s guest post is from Margaret, mom to Kieran, where she describes her struggle to overcome the conflict between reality and her spiritual faith.  PCHA does not endorse any specific faith or religion.  Whatever your beliefs may be, hopefully you can relate to the resolution this mother finds in appreciating the hope and comfort she finds in her faith.

It was an April Monday, the day after Easter.

My son pulled on his red rubber rain boots and raced to the door.

“Mom, can I have the colorful umbrella?’” he asked me excitedly.

Even though it was still raining outside, we put our umbrellas up and went for a spring walk. At 5 ½ years old, there’s little my son likes to do better than take a walk in the rain as if he’s a born romantic, a natural Paris-in-the-rain type of guy. He carries an umbrella only because I require it–otherwise he loves getting soaked to the bone. I can picture him in London, getting drenched but saying, “just a drizzle!” As I watched Kieran hopping through puddles and saving worms from the well-trafficked driveway to our building, his rainbow-colored umbrella twirling against the darkened sky, my thoughts rewound back through time to an Easter 6 years ago now, when my husband and I had just found out our son was going to be born with HLHS. I won’t recap that story here, but you can read more about HLHS and our first years here.

A lot has changed since the difficult Easter weekend of 6 years ago, when my husband and I got the news at the end of the day on Good Friday, and spent a scared weekend trying to learn about a diagnosis we never even knew existed until the day before–and our baby had it. Church that Sunday was difficult and traumatic for me, and in hindsight, I probably shouldn’t have gone–instead of finding comfort in the message of resurrection and renewal, all I could fixate on were the frightening parts about a man who was said to have been born to die and his grieving mother. I was so stuck in my own shock, hurt, and terror that the promises of my faith and family and friends were all but lost on me. I had yet to believe that “God isn’t in the event, but in the response, in the care and love one receives.”

In retrospect, change is always happening when we experience new life events, even if we don’t notice the tectonic shifts beneath our feet at the time. Sometimes only looking back allows us to see how fleeting those times in life really were. I believe we, as humans, associate the ephemeral with beauty and innocence, and that is what allows us to appreciate the brief blaze of fall colors, the fleeting bloom of early spring flowers, the graceful visit of a hummingbird at our window, the short but blessed lives of butterflies, and the exuberance of early childhood. We associate a burst of joy and energy with such things because we assume such a finite timespan inspires–even requires–an enjoyment of life to the fullest.

There are many possible happy endings to any story. The happy ending I deeply wish for is that a cure for HLHS and all other congenital heart defects would magically appear and our children would be promised long, healthy lives free of such formidable conditions. But as time went on, I realized that isn’t the only possible happy outcome of this story.

My son teaches me to appreciate not just the rainbows in life, but the rain showers. And isn’t one born from the other, anyway? I don’t like getting wet; he sees joy and play in a rainy afternoon. Kieran reminds me that from hard times, change occurs and new life is born. He reminds me to treasure the fleeting moments, the ephemeral beauty of his childhood, and to notice the temporary joys given to each one of us on this earth. When I have moments of fear, worry, even terror, I remind myself to focus on enjoying the time we have together to the fullest.

Now, finally, Easter holds wonderful meaning for me again. Instead of being blinded by hurt and trauma, I can hold most close and dear the wonderful promises of comfort, of renewal, and of the eternal significance one person’s life can be, no matter how fleeting our time spent here is.

Margaret King bioMargaret King is a stay at home mom who loves spending time with her family, avidly reading, community gardening, traveling, and exploring the outdoors.  She is currently working on a young adult fiction series and enjoys flash fiction and science fiction writing as well.  Margaret has worked in the past teaching English abroad in Nepal and Mongolia, which she counts among the best experiences of her life, along with her heart family journey which she is so happy to share with our readers. Read more about Kieran’s story, here.

One thought on “Rain Showers, Rainbows

  1. Stephanie Austin on said:

    Margaret, this is so beautifully written! Thank you for sharing. If you have a blog, I would love to follow it. 🙂