Yesterday our families took time to honor and show our appreciation for our Dads. In our latest blog, Heart Mom, Roxanne Bejarano, shares with us what her husband, Angel, means to her and their family.
My husband is heart dad, Angel Bejarano.
I could not have gone through our experience without the support and guidance from my best friend-my husband. We really made a great team when we found out our son Miles’ heart condition. We definitely leaned on each other and developed a rhythm that nobody else understood. We didn’t get in each other’s way, and both knew we wanted to be with our son 24:7. We never left the hospital, until after his heart transplant surgery. We knew the hard part was over, but that a whole new life was about to begin.
Being in the hospital, waiting for a heart donor, questioning the doctors, and trying to rationalize why our son was in heart failure were definitely stressful times for us to overcome as husband and wife. We’ve been friends for over 20 years, and our friendship became much stronger after going through this experience.
We understood each other and he gave me the courage to know “it was not my fault” – it wasn’t anyone’s fault. The hardest thing about being a mother, for me, was that I brought a sick child into this world, but knowing my husband will stand by me and not blame me is the one thing that helped me cope through all this.
We learned very quickly that we were in our own world. Nobody understood what we were going through; we were alone. It took our love, strength, and faith to enter into this new parenting mode, and we discovered that nothing else matters but Miles’ health.
Thank you Angel for being my angel. Love you so much!
Roxanne Bejarano was raised on the north side of Chicago and is a huge Cubs fan. After meeting Angel in grade school, she and her husband have been friends for more than 20 years and married for six. Roxanne is medical coder for Northwestern Memorial Hospital, and has two sons, Miles and Logan. Her days are filled with caring for her boys and staying on top of Miles’ medical needs, including medications, doctor visits, and speech therapy. When you’re a heart parent, the only people who understand what you’re going through are those that have been in the same situation; that’s why Roxanne and her husband love the heart community and PCHA.