Donate Life Month – Choosing to give the Ultimate Gift

 

For the month of April, PCHA has been focusing on the theme of National Donate Life Month. In the fourth post of our series, Emily Inman shares the story of the day her family decided to give the gift of life, after her mother’s unexpected passing.

 

 

My mom had just gone back to work after taking off another long stint under the Family Medical Leave Act. She worked the 3pm – 11pm shift as a secretary at a trucking company. This meant I was back spending my evenings and parts of my nights at my grandparents. I didn’t mind. Grandma spoiled me. But I was used to having my mom around since she took off so much time under the FMLA. I was waiting for a bone marrow transplant. I didn’t have a match because I’m an only child, and, as luck would have it, no one in family was closer than a half match. I had just undergone several rounds of chemotherapy, steroid treatments, and an experimental stem cell transplant. I was still in reverse isolation and unable to attend school and activities.

I admit, it was a little scary not having her there even though I was at Grandma’s. She would call me during her lunch break to check on me and what not. On this particular day, the phone didn’t ring. Fifteen minutes into her lunch break it still didn’t ring. I knew something was wrong. I asked my Grandma if I could use the phone to call her. She said no. I defiantly used Grandma’s bedroom phone to call her office. One of the office ladies made up some story about how she couldn’t find her. Now I definitely knew something was wrong. About 5 minutes later the phone rang. Grandma picked it up. I deviously picked up the phone in Grandma’s bedroom to listen in on the conversation. I couldn’t believe my ears: “Mrs. Vasquez, we found Patty passed out at her desk. She was rushed to the hospital. You need to get there as soon as possible.”

The next couple hours were a complete blur. I don’t know if they were a blur from all the commotion, from my young brain trying to block it out, or from all the cancer drugs I was on. The next thing I remember is walking off of the elevator and down the hall to the ICU at the hospital. My dad, who was an over-the-road truck driver at that same company, was sitting there still wearing his Carhartt and covered in dirt and oil, with his hands over his face. I had never seen him cry before. And there he was. Beet red and crying like a baby. The nurse came in and explained to me that she had a brain aneurysm. She was basically brain-dead by the time she got to the hospital. We walked over to her room. I peered in the glass and she was laying there lifeless. Tubes, wires, and equipment were everywhere. If I close my eyes, I can still see her laying there with the breathing tube in her mouth. I said goodbye to her. And I thanked her for being the best mom I could ever ask for.

Grandma took me home, gave me all of those cancer drugs no child should ever have to take, and put me to bed. Behind the scenes, the pediatric cancer doctors we were working with at the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee flew down by helicopter and harvested her stem cells in case I never found a bone marrow match or the experimental stem cell transplants didn’t work. The doctors then pulled the plug. Patricia A. Inman passed away March 1, 2001.

My mom helped to organize multiple blood and bone drives not only in hopes of finding a bone marrow match for me, but for finding matches for all others out their searching for their continued gift of life. We learned that what made it so hard to find me a bone marrow match was that I am of fifty percent Hispanic/Latino origin. My mom made it her mission to spread awareness about minority blood, bone marrow, and tissue donation, and to register as many people as she could to donate.

She then became an organ donor and her heart, both eyes, both kidneys, both lungs, liver, and pancreas were all donated. They went to recipients ranging in ages from 7 to 73. The mom of the 7-year-old boy who received one of her kidneys sent us an update on his condition right after his transplant. I was elated to read it. He was doing well and his prognosis looked positive. He liked to play baseball and couldn’t wait to be back out on the field. She asked if I would mind sharing something about my mom. The 73-year-old woman who received her heart also reached out and asked if I would mind sharing something about my mom. I shared that she is dancing in heaven knowing her organs went to so many people. She devoted her life to giving back, and now her afterlife is devoted to giving back as well.

 

 

 Emily Inman is originally from the Chicagoland area, and is an only child from a large Latino family. She was diagnosed with a very rare form of bone marrow cancer, called aplastic anemia, when she was 10-years-old. Emily needed a bone marrow transplant, but never found a match. She received several experimental stem cell transplants that ultimately saved her life. Emily’s mom, Patricia, passed away from a brain aneurysm while Emily was still undergoing treatment. She grew older, entered remission, and eventually went back to living a “normal life.” Emily received a B.A. in Journalism & Mass Communication and Global Health Studies from the University of Iowa. She stayed at U of IA and got her Masters of Public Health in Community & Behavioral Health, as well as Health Communication with a concentration in Cultural Compentency. Emily is now serving her second term with the Illinois Department of Public Health AmeriCorps. She serves as the food access for an organization that conducts homelessness prevention and intervention in the South Suburbs of Chicago.

Donate Life Month – The Call

 

For the month of April, PCHA will be focusing on the theme of National Donate Life Month. In the third post of our series, Kathleen Sheffer, a heart and lung transplant recipient, shares her memory of the harrowing moments that came after the fateful call.

 

I didn’t stress about packing absolutely everything I needed because I believed it would be a dry run. Calls for transplants are never actually rehearsals, but they’re referred to as dry runs when, for whatever reason, the organs are determined unviable. Most transplant patients I knew had had at least one—one friend even entered the Operating Room (OR) before the surgeon called it off. I figured it was a rite of passage: I would go through the motions today, but I still had a long time to wait. Just 28 days on the list of transplant candidates and they had a match for me? Impossible!

 

I had imagined this phone call several times a day for the last month. After one too many heart-stopping calls from numbers with my center’s area code, I called my nurse coordinator to ask what sort of an introduction I could expect. She patiently talked me through the questions the caller would ask me and said they would make it clear immediately that this was not your standard appointment-scheduling phone call.

The phone rang at 7:50am and as soon as the first words were out of his mouth, I knew the man on the phone was calling to offer me organs. He rushed through the script, stumbling over some parts. I eagerly confirmed I did not have any cold symptoms and had not eaten since the night before. I informed him that I was a two-hour drive away from the hospital and he promised to have a bed ready for me at 10am. It went exactly the way my nurse coordinator had described it.

 

My heart was racing too fast for me to think clearly about what I wanted to bring. I shoved a few books and art supplies in a bag, grateful to my parents for handling the backup of medical supplies, so I could focus on the important things, like updating Facebook and locating the henna ink. My dad returned from work and my younger sister, Monica, was woken upstairs. Our house was filled with hurried footsteps and phone conversations. Excitement, fear, and confusion reigned. I stood trembling in my newly converted downstairs bedroom. Taking the stairs was out of the question so I dictated clothing requests to Monica, in a routine we’d cemented into the foundation of our relationship. After 21 years together as Monica, Kathleen, and Chronic Illness, it became her implied responsibility to get up and walk across the room to retrieve the scissors I wanted from the shelf two feet away from me. Three weeks later I headed up a different set of stairs to retrieve her shoes and wallet in an attempt to restructure our roles around my new health status.

By 8:40 we were in the car—breathless and jittery, each convinced we’d forgotten the most important item on the packing list we never finished making. The drive to Stanford was less than two hours, but it felt like traffic moved slower than ever specifically to heighten my unresolved panic. I was excited, impatient, and afraid. My heart had not stopped pounding since the phone rang. Normally my heart rate hung between 60-80 Beats Per Minute, but on July 30th it was consistently between 100-130 BPM. Once admitted, I leaned back in the bed that would transport me to the OR ten hours later, closed my eyes, breathed steadily, and relaxed. Still the screen read 122 BPM. My heart could not ignore the adrenaline pulsing through me, however much I tried to trick myself into staying calm. Somehow my birth heart knew this was our last hurrah together and was giving me every bit of strength it had left.

 

The level of respect I have for the organs that kept me alive for 23 years contributed to the grief I experienced in the aftermath of my surgery. Don’t get me wrong—I have railed against my tangled heart and poor excuses for lungs enough times to exhaust my most understanding confidantes. It appeared to me that the entire world had great lungs they took for granted and that it was my fate to watch them squander them, often at my expense. I noticed other students smoking more frequently on my college campus when temperatures dropped. Cold air irritated my tight airways, making it harder to breathe and often triggering asthma. I would shed hot, angry tears as I gulped frigid smoke on my way to class, huffing and puffing up the unrelenting Berkeley hills. No matter how hard I tried to find some divine purpose for my illness, it was impossible for me to reconcile the injustice. My bitterness made me feel alone among 35,000 students—and all the more bonded to my deteriorating insides.

 

I waited in room B201 for ten hours. More and more friends arrived throughout the day: it was a festive occasion. We played card games, listened to music, drew henna tattoos on each other, and laughed a lot. The anticipation electrified us all. Amidst all the excitement, my donor was constantly on my mind. I knew that the hours I spent waiting were some of the worst hours in the lives of my donor’s loved ones. I smiled and celebrated new hope gifted to me by a stranger whose friends and family were simultaneously learning of a loss that brought grief into their lives forever.

 

Every breath I take for the rest of my life is only possible because my donor and their family chose selflessness in intense suffering. Though I may never know them, we navigate the same waters. My ship has been rocked by grief more times in my 23 years than in some lifetimes. I know how a rediscovered handwriting sample can take your breath away and how a number on the calendar can spoil an entire week. I know that the pain can be just as strong five years after the initial loss. My hope is that someday I can share some fragment of the joy their gift brought me with the wave-beaten voyagers my donor left behind.

 

Soliciting friends to witness my advance directive, I forwarded my mom the informal list of final wishes I wrote in a bleak period in college. It includes important things like what kinds of trees to plant in my honor, instructions for how long to keep my Facebook profile active, and various demands for the party that will be thrown in lieu of a funeral. Waiting outside the doors to the OR with just my parents, I apologized for some of the more outdated references. In the two years since I started planning for end-of-life, much like my peers do their wedding days, my prized possessions have changed and friendships have evolved, along with my social media passwords. During what could have been our final moments together, my mom and I talked animatedly about where to direct donations in the event of my death. Organizing like this is one of our practiced coping mechanisms: our theory is that once we do everything that needs doing, we can return to a state of denial and escape our worries. I’m not going to pretend it’s incredibly healthy, but it works for us.

 

 

My experience in the OR was surreal: I waited hours, watching as nurses, their backs turned to me, carefully arranged metallic-sounding instruments. Behind me, my gentle anesthesiologist tended to his assigned tasks, initiating conversations from time to time. He let me choose the Pandora station: after a few seconds of intense deliberation I settled on Blind Pilot and was pleased that the only complaints coming from our small group were about his lack of a paid subscription and not my selection. The idea that this might be the last playlist I listened to added a whole new level of pressure to a decision I normally leave to more musically literate friends.

 

I asked for a pen and paper because drawing had lowered my heart rate while I waited upstairs. I sketched the scene before me, channeling my focus into the pen and away from the useless worries welling up around me. Seeking images of strength and wisdom, guardian angels appeared in my agnostic mind, like deceased wizards from a connection of simultaneously cast spells. My silly grin went unnoticed as I convened with my wise, witty, and spirited angels: I needed Michelle’s charming practicality, Amelia’s stubborn assuredness, and Sarah’s fiery perseverance. I could feel their presence and hear their voices. My only concern as the team started the infusion to put me to sleep was for those who waited outside the room. I knew I would have no memory of the hours that would pass slowly for my family and friends. I felt lucky to be the patient and have nothing left to do—just lie there and trust my body not to give up. My body has an impressive record of defying odds without my awareness, so I embraced unconsciousness with confidence.

 

If you would like to sign up to be an organ and tissue donor, pleae visit https://www.donatelife.net/ 

 

 

 

Kathleen Sheffer received a heart-lung transplant on July, 1, 2016 at age 23. She employs writing and photography to document her healing process and raise awareness. Born with Transposition of the Great Arteries and Idiopathic Pulmonary Arterial Hypertension, Kathleen is now able to channel her drive into exercising and taking anti-rejection medications on a rigorous schedule.

National Donate Life Month – Becoming A Donor

For the month of April, PCHA will be focusing on the theme of National Donate Life Month. In the second post of our series, Jennifer Weiner, an adult CHD patient, shares why she feels passionately about organ donation and how to sign up as a donor.

 

A while back, I got a letter from Jesse White, Illinois’ Secretary of State. It’s not like we’re pen pals, but when I renewed my driver’s license the state sent a friendly thank-you for preserving my organ donor status. Back in 2006, I signed up on the First Person Consent Registry, and I love getting that letter every four years. I love showing it to my family, saying, “Go to this web site and sign up” (Go to this website and sign up http://www.lifegoeson.com/)!  I love the reminder that I made an active, conscious decision to help someone else.

To me, signing up on the registry, promising a part of ourselves to a stranger, is one of the most amazing yet simplest ways of tying us all together. This ad, which caught my attention back in 2007, has stuck with me 10 years later and demonstrates that idea perfectly.

 

I remember when I turned 16, the First Person Consent list didn’t exist. I, no doubt about it, signed the back of that very first driver’s license. Even then, organ donation was something I felt strongly about. I wanted to make sure everyone knew my wishes; I insisted my friends and family follow through with donation under any circumstances.

When the registry came out, I read all the details and signed online immediately. The website explains that your status on the list isn’t available until after you pass, you can change your mind, and it’s legally binding, so even if your family disagrees with your decision, your wishes will be honored.

I’m sure by now you’re wondering if Jesse White’s letter asks for marketing help, but I swear it didn’t.  By my best estimation, this all started with me in 8th grade. My sister and I were prayer partners with Paige´ Wilsek – we went to Catholic School. I will never forget it. She was in third grade and suffering from cancer, which started as Leukemia and spread to her bones. Our church held a donor search to find a bone marrow match for her. The chances of finding one were pretty slim, because of her rare blood type. They never found a match. Paige´ died before she finished 4th grade. I remember how hard it was to go to her wake and funeral. I couldn’t stop thinking about all the things she would never get to do, the life she should have had. Her mother wound up comforting me instead of the other way around.

Typically, you’d think of an organ donation as a whole heart or a kidney, but, in reality, even one vital healthy piece can save someone’s life, like the bone marrow Paige´ never got. It stuck with me then, and hit closer to home when I was 17 and received a donation of my own.

In 1999, I received a pulmonary valve and conduit homograft. At first, I thought of it as some disembodied pulmonary artery sitting in a freezer somewhere. It wasn’t until someone asked me whether or not I was going to send a thank you letter to the family that it hit me. I was alive and healthy thanks to someone else’s final gift. I never did send a thank you, and still feel a bit guilty about that.  Perhaps the best way to say thank you, though, is to pay it forward. I want to give whatever I can in the end, in hopes that it will give someone else a second chance.

So for all of you that haven’t signed the First Person Consent Registry to become an organ donor, go to http://www.lifegoeson.com/ and sign up.

 

*Please note each State has its own policy/procedure for organ donation registration. Learn more about organ donation and the policy in your State,  or to register and learn more about  various types of donation, please check out Donate Life.

 

 

Jennifer is a graduate of DePaul University, with a degree in Elementary Education and an MA in English and Creative Writing from SNHU. She is a 35 year old adult congenital heart patient, born with Truncus Arteriosus, has had two repair surgeries, and is an ICD recipient. Jennifer volunteers for the Pediatric Congenital Heart Association, both nationally and locally, managing the PCHA Blog and IL Chapter Communications. She also serves on the steering committee of Chicagoland Cardiac Connections, an organization that provides support and resources for patients with cardiac devices, based out of Lurie Children’s Chicago.

National Donate Life Month – The Wait

For the month of April, PCHA will be focusing on the theme of National Donate Life Month. In the first post of our series, Bill Coon, professional author and speaker, shares thoughts on his wait for a multiple organ transplant.

 

I didn’t see the point in journaling yesterday. The day as a whole was very monotonous. My only visitor was my mom. She just sat in my room all day as I walked the halls of the CCU and worked on my homework.

 It seems the longer I wait for my transplants, the more I begin to think about the life of my donor.

 What are they doing right now? What will cause them to die? If they are driving in a car when they are killed, where were they going? Were they happy when they died? Will they find inner peace before they pass? Or did they just finish fighting with a loved one and will never get a chance to say they were sorry? Is my donor a good person? Do they have many regrets from their past? What are their future aspirations that they want to accomplish but will never get a chance to complete? Do they have a family? Are they alone? Will they be scared when they pass?

 My mind races with these questions on monotonous days. I find it shocking to believe that my donor’s life is so rich at the moment. They have no idea what is to come in the near future, nor do they have any idea as to whom I am and how horrendously awful my life has become in a matter of three and a half months.

 Like always, I am trying my hardest to push those thoughts aside. I try to look for the bright spots in my life, but I still can’t shake the thoughts.

 I hate monotonous days.

I wrote those words from my hospital bed in Chicago on Thursday, September 24, 2009. The very donor I referenced would save my life exactly twenty-seven days later when he or she would gift me their heart and one of their kidneys.

A photo from the hospital illustrating Bill’s neck post-procedure.

I truly believe that one of the largest misconceptions of organ donation is that the recipient’s life goes back to normal the second they exit the hospital with their clean bill of health. While the physical transition is incredibly quick, the mental transition from experiencing “the wait” is one that takes years to overcome. However, please know that I use the term “overcome” very lightly. For the realization that a stranger must die for you to live is more humbling than the realization of your own mortality. The realization causes you to answer a barrage of interpersonal questions. You spend your days in the hospital (and months, if not years) post-surgery questioning why you were saved. You ask yourself, time and time again, Why did the universe choose me over my donor? These questions, of course, can never be answered with any absolute certainty. However, they do force you to reevaluate your life and begin making decisions that not only honor the miraculous gift you received, but also the life of your donor.

The memories that you develop from “the wait” only deepen your new sense of responsibility to live a good life post-transplant. While I have many memories from “the wait” there are two that changed me the most. These two memories find a way to rise from my subconscious in the moments of my post-transplant life where I begin to stress about petty obstacles. It is as though my brain, in a beautiful way, reminds me that as long as I have my health and my loved ones, there are no problems that cannot be easily rectified and resolved.

The memory I would like to share with you is of a ritual that I had each night of my 70-day wait for a new heart and kidney. My doctors told me that I would be notified of a perfect match via a call to a tiny, white-yellow phone that rested on a nightstand at the head of my hospital bed. In turn, while I waited for the phone to ring, I began to obsess over the fantasy of hearing the tone. Consequently, each night I went out of my way to make sure I was ready to answer the phone at any hour of the night.

Prior to bed, I would take my food tray and set it next to the right side of my bed near my hand. I would then reach over the bed and grab the phone. After stretching the phone cord, I would neatly place the phone atop my food tray. Next, I would place a pillow on the left side of my body because I developed a tendency of banging my left arm against the bed rail while I slept. I would then turn the lights off and I would begin to pray. I would begin to beg for God, the universe, for anybody or anything to save me. I would then transition to the final part of my ritual where I would lie in bed for hours feeling absolutely terrible that I had, technically, just prayed for someone else to die.

This memory is a perfect microcosm of “the wait”. Though you spend your days in organ failure feeling miserable, for the most part, you are rarely left alone. The time spent with others is typically discussion surrounding your medications, upcoming appointments, procedures and what life will be like once you receive your organs. In the rare hours when you are left alone, you spend those hours thinking of the donor. The donor never leaves you before and after they become a part of you.

It is with this in mind that I would like to encourage everyone to become an organ donor. In doing so, not only will you save a life, but also you will be loved and honored each day after your passing by the recipient of your generosity.

Bill just moments prior to his second heart transplant.

 

 

Please use this link to find your state’s donor registry and become an organ donor today.

 

 

Bill Coon is a two-time heart transplant recipient, kidney recipient, HLHS survivor, author and professional speaker. His book, SWIM: A Memoir of Survivor has been read by thousands internationally and has aided countless individuals in overcoming the mental battle of a chronic illness. Click here to learn more about Bill.

National Reading Month: You’re Here for a Reason

For the month of March, PCHA will be focusing on the theme of National Reading Month. In the 3rd post of our series, PCHA’s Jessica Chenevert talks with us about one special book. Read on to hear why You’re Here for a Reason holds a special place in her heart.

Barrett checking out his book

When I bought this children’s book, I had no idea that the first time I would read it to my son, Bear, I would be brought to tears. Never in my life has a book made me cry. The book is titled, “You’re Here for a Reason,” and it’s written and illustrated by Nancy Tillman. I decided to buy it, because I loved another one of her books, “On the Night You Were Born,” which Bear had received as a gift for his first Christmas. Not only does the book have a beautiful rhyming phrases, but it is written in a way that floats off the pages and can truly relate itself to your life. In my case, the words reached through the pages and spoke to me about Barrett’s journey with Congenital Heart Disease. The book, as far as I know, has no relation to heart disease and wasn’t written with a heart kid in mind, but every word I read applied to it perfectly.

Barrett is here for a reason. Every one of us is. Nancy shows her readers how each of us fits into life’s big picture and how this world would simply be incomplete without each of us in it. As we sat there after reading the book, I held my sweet, strong warrior and rocked him back and forth and thought it was such a perfect gift for children and families living with CHD.

One of the fun things I am able to do at PCHA is pick a quote and pair it with photo to create an inspirational design of sorts. Naturally, I created one using a passage from one of these great books and posted it on social media. To my great surprise, the author herself engaged in the post. I immediately reached out to her on my personal account about my love for her books and sent her a picture of Barrett.

Of course, she responded to those also, and I was overjoyed. A small interaction, but one that would stay with me. Little did I know it would not end there. Last September, I had the privilege of being honored at the Congenital Heart Gala in Milwaukee with the Heart Hero of the Year Award. Our Director of Programs, Amy, knowing my love for Nancy Tillman books, reached out to the New York Times best-selling author so that when I walked up to accept the award I would also have a copy of “You’re Here for a Reason” made out to Barrett, complete with a signature.

Ezra on his 2nd Birthday

Giving parents words that can match the feelings they have for their children is Nancy Tillman’s goal in creating these books. Before I even knew about that, I had felt it. I had already decided it would be the book I wanted to gift to other amazing little warriors and their parents. Just one month earlier, I had given it as part of a gift from Barrett to his buddy Ezra on his 2nd birthday. Now, Barrett and Ezra were born roughly two weeks apart, they had all the same newborn clothes, underwent surgery at the same hospital, and were both living with CHD. Ezra’s battle had been particularly rough, but Ezzie’s mom and I liked to call them twins, because even with different defects, different struggles, and ultimately different outcomes…they were brothers on this journey.

This book has a special place on Barrett’s book shelf and in my heart. Each time we read it, I hope he knows how truly amazing and strong he is and how much he is loved.

 

 

 

Note from the Author:

Dear loving parents,

My own grandchild was born with a hole in her heart, so I know much of the struggle that you are going through.  She is well and happy now and that is what I wish for all your precious children.  I wrote You’re Here for a Reason to speak from your heart. I so dearly hope it does.  Your child is miraculous.

Blessings,

Nancy Tillman

 

 

 

 

Jess lives up the North Shore of Minnesota with her husband Nolan and their son Barrett “Bear” and their dog Bailey. Barrett was born with Transposition of the Great Arteries & Coarctation of the Aorta. With a background in several aspects of the medical field Jess. Joined PCHA shortly after Barrett’s Birth and subsequent diagnosis. Now a stay at home heart mom she strives to be an active volunteer as an advocate, committee member, and Social Media Coordinator for PCHA.

National Reading Month: A Q&A on The Love of Reading with Members of the CHD Community

For the month of March, PCHA will be focusing on the theme of National Reading Month. In the 2nd post of our series, PCHA asked members from across the spectrum of our CHD Community to tell us what they love about reading. Sharing with us this week, about what reading has brought to their lives, are Megan Setzer from the perspective of her son Caleb, born with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome, Alison Connors, mother of two heart warriors, McKenzie and Archer, and Carol Raimondi, an Adult CHD patient with Congenitally Corrected Transposition of the Great Arteries.

 

PCHA:  Why do you love to read?

Megan + Caleb: I’m still learning to read. I love being read to. I like feeling like I’m part of the story.

Alison: Reading is a great escape for me. When I read I am able take time to myself to decompress. Life can be stressful and having that outlet is so important. Reading is probably the most important skill you learn besides math.

Carol:  I love to read because it relaxes me. It allows my mind to focus on the story, and take me to wherever it is set. I can be in a place where the characters are, and that lets me temporarily forget any stresses or worries I have going in my life. 

 

PCHA: Where’s the best place to settle in with a good book?

Megan + Caleb: Anywhere. My favorite place is to snuggle into my bed and look at books before I go to sleep at night.

Alison: The best place to read a book is anywhere! A good book can be read in the loudest place imaginable, because once you start reading you are taken to a different place anyway!

Carol: I love stretching out in bed when I read. Being somewhere with little distraction is key!

 

PCHA: What’s the best part of your favorite book?

Megan + Caleb: Everything! I don’t really have a favorite.

Alison: For me, I like to read historical biographies of famous figures, like Abraham Lincoln, Che, Jackie O and Benjamin Franklin. Reading about the lives of historical figures and about our past customs in American history is a favorite of mine.

Carol:  I really don’t have one favorite book. Anytime I can relax and read for an extended period of time makes me happy!

 

PCHA: What character, from any book, do you most identify with?

Megan + Caleb: There is a small part of all the characters that I can identify with. I am strong like the Super Heroes that I read about and I’m silly like the funny creatures in the Dr. Seuss books.

Alison: When reading historical biographies I don’t necessarily identify with the characters I read about, but one thing about reading about someone’s history is that the past does sometimes repeat itself so I can see how America and the world hasn’t really changed as much as we all assume it has. Technology has changed but as human beings we are still fighting over the same things, fighting for the same things and uniting about the same things. It’s very interesting.

Carol: I tend to identify with any female lead character. Someone who has obstacles to overcome time and time again, but stays strong and shows perseverance. 

 

PCHA: Do you have a favorite author or genre? What do you like about that style?

Megan + Caleb: Dr. Seuss is my favorite author, because his books are funny.

Alison: Historical biographies are pretty much all I read. I figure I’d like to learn something while I am making the time to read. Abraham Lincoln is probably one of the most interesting people I have ever read about. How he ran the country, how he united with his rival, his views on leadership, and work ethic really impressed me. As a person you are always evolving, so whenever I can learn something from reading, I feel accomplished.

Carol: I tend to vary on the genre I read. Sometimes I will read medical non-fiction, as I enjoy learning about disease management and how others have handled living with chronic illness. Other times, I prefer to go the exact opposite and stay light by reading fantasy books. Anything with a vampire or werewolf will suffice! It is nice to escape reality and let my imagination go wild!

 

PCHA: Have you ready any books involving characters with CHD? How’s they hold up to your own experience?

Megan + Caleb: I have read the book, Zipline…It’s about a girl who had a heart surgery, and she is all better now.  Unlike this character, I have had multiple heart surgeries.  I also have a hard time keeping up with my friends when they are running around the playground.

Alison: I have not yet read any books involving characters with CHD! I will have to look into that! Every CHD story is different, which probably why CHD is not as well-known as I would like. Having over 35 different types, so many different outcomes, and sometimes having multiple CHDs really makes every Heart Family’s perspective completely unique, but I think each of us, whether your child’s ASD closed by itself or whether you child is on his/her 4th surgery, we’re all the same. We’re shocked, worried parents who strive to give our children the best life possible, and we’re not alone in this CHD heart journey. Heart parents and patients are pretty passionate people, so I think I would definitely relate to a book with a CHD character.

Carol: I have read several books with CHD patients as the main character. In some cases, I have identified completely with the feelings they have shared, to the point where it hits too close to home, and I need to put the book down for a few days. In other circumstances, I felt like the CHD patient did not give a good representation of what life is like with heart defects. It was either overdramatized or made to seem like it wasn’t a big deal. I prefer a happy medium between the two.

 

PCHA: What’s missing from bookstores? What book would you like to see on the shelves?

Megan + Caleb: I don’t know what’s missing from the bookstores, because most of my books come from the school Book Fair, in the mail, or are on my tablet. I love it when the Book Fair comes to my school and seeing all the different types of books that they have!

Alison: We lost my husband’s Mother, Nicky, suddenly last year. She was a fiction writer. She worked hard for her kids, and, when they were grown, she worked hard for herself. She went to Columbia College in Chicago and worked there as well. She was the coolest person to have as a Mother-in-Law; every time I talked to her she challenged my thinking, inspired me to be a strong woman, and always gave my husband a hard time, which was fun to see! I always thought we would have more time with her. I would love to see her works put into a book. She always talked about having so many works, pages and pages of unfinished work, a life unfinished. Maybe one day, as a family, we can make that happen. I would love to sit one day, open a book by Nicky Chakalis, and read it to the next generation of our family. For me, that’s what is missing on the bookshelves. 

Carol: I would love to see more books geared towards teens on living with chronic illness, whether CHD or not. I think this an important age group that needs as much information as they can get.  What book would I like to see on the shelf? A manual for life with CHD, from pre-natal diagnosis through adulthood, with chapters specifically for family members, friends, spouses and health care providers. That’s not asking too much, right?

 

Megan Setzer is a mother of a child with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. With a background in Social Work, it has become her passion to provide support and resources to those impacted by CHD.  Shortly after her son’s birth in 2009, Megan chartered Mended Little Hearts of Winchester as a way to connect area families and to offer support and resources. Under her leadership, the group was honored with the 2012 MLH Group Excellence Award and it continued to grow its network. In 2013, her group expanded geographically and became Mended Little Hearts of the Shenandoah Valley, serving families in the Shenandoah Valley of Virginia and Panhandle of West Virginia. She was elected as the Mended Little Hearts National Board Director in 2013, where she served until December 2016. She is currently serving as a Board Director for the Pediatric Congenital Heart Association.Megan has a Bachelor’s of Social Work from James Madison University, graduating in 1999.  She worked for almost 10 years as a Medical Social Worker, and is now employed in the health technology field as a Clinical Advisor, specializing in care transitions. When she is not volunteering, she is kept busy by her husband and two boys. She loves to read and crochet.

Alison Connors is a mother of three children: McKenzie, Jackson and Archer. Her oldest McKenzie and youngest Archer both had open heart surgery for congenital heart defects. McKenzie and Archer have been in the care of the PSHU team at Advocate Children’s Hospital in Oak Lawn, Illinois since birth. Alison has been married since 2009 to her best friend Christopher, and she recently went back to work as a 1:1 teacher’s aide for children with special needs. She and her family have a busy life, but she has a passion for volunteering and believes that there is healing power in taking part in something that is bigger than yourself. Having two children with CHD threw Alison onto a path she never expected to be on, but a path her family is very grateful to be on. It’s an honor for Alison and her family to share resources, give hope, and support to others who face the same situations that they have.

 

Carol Raimondi is an adult CHD patient and nurse, living with Congenitally Corrected Transposition of the Great Arteries.  She has had 4 open heart surgeries in her 40 years, as well as a pacemaker since the age of 6. After spending a large part of her childhood in and out of hospitals, she developed a passion for nursing. She went to school to become a cardiac nurse. Carol’s many hospital experiences helped her as a nurse to better understand what her patients were going through and  to care for them with that much more compassion and empathy.

Due to worsening medical issues, Carol had to give up the profession she loved. That did not stop her from being a patient advocate, however. She joined her local hospital’s’ Patient Family Advisory Council, which she now co-chairs, and shortly thereafter she joined Mended Little Hearts Chicago(MLHC) as an adult CHD liaison. She then expanded her work in the CHD community by starting an adult and teen CHD group within MLHC and became an  Ambassador for the Adult Congenital Heart Association. Currently she sits as the Pediatric Congenital Heart Association of IL(PCHA-IL) Vice President and State officer, after a recent transition from MLHC. Her proudest moments are when she is advocating and raising awareness for the CHD community, both on Capitol Hill in D.C. and locally.

National Reading Month: It’s My Heart Book

For the month of March, PCHA will be focusing on the theme of National Reading Month. In the first post of our series, the Children’s Heart Foundation shares an overview of the It’s My Heart book, a resource for families affected by CHD. PCHA and the Children’s Heart Foundation are partnering to include the It’s My Heart book in every Conquering CHD Kit. 

 

 

 

Receiving a congenital heart defect (CHD) diagnosis is often an emotional, confusing and overwhelming time.

In 2003, The Children’s Heart Foundation (CHF) – along with a dedicated group of doctors, nurses and parents – set-out to address a dire need noted by patients with CHDs and their loved ones. Although doctors and nurses often explained things well, written materials were either too simple (pamphlets on how the normal heart works) or too complex (medical journals). There was a need for a resource guide with clear writing and illustrations on the most common kinds of heart defects, tests, equipment, surgical procedures and medications.

Published in 2004, It’s My Heart, was written in plain, understandable language. It provides descriptions of the types of CHDs, explanations of the various tests, surgical procedures and treatments for CHDs. This book also contains helpful “before and after” diagrams, a glossary of medical terms, and much, much more.

“Hours after my son was first diagnosed with a CHD at 2 days old, our nurse handed me a copy of It’s My Heart in the hospital. I remember being so scared and confused at that time; it felt as if everything was broken,” said Sally Powers, CHF Executive Board Member & Heart Mom to Sam.

“But that book was one of the first resources I had to help lift me up and move me forward on our journey with CHD,” Sally continues. “And that made me feel hopeful.”

Today, in its’ second edition, It’s My Heart is still a widely used resource book. CHF distributes this book to patients, parents, family members, healthcare professionals and friends of congenital heart defect patients worldwide.

It has always been a high priority for CHF to offer the book free-of-charge. Thanks to support from Medtronic Foundation, Northwestern University Dance Marathon 2011 and various grants, CHF has been able to continue to do so.

“I’ll always be thankful that The Children’s Heart Foundation knew the need for newly diagnosed parents to have that kind of easy-to-understand resource at such a critical time,” Sally said. “My son is 8 now and I still refer to It’s My Heart often.”

To order your free copy of It’s My Heart, please visit: http://weblink.donorperfect.com/Itsmyheartbookorder.
If you have any questions or to place an international order, please contact Rosemary at RWheeler@childrensheartfoundation.org.

 

 

About The Children’s Heart Foundation

The mission of The Children’s Heart Foundation is to fund the most promising research to advance the diagnosis, treatment and prevention of congenital heart defects. For more information, please visit:www.childrensheartfoundation.org. Follow us on Facebook and Twitter.